Hearing about a party after the fact is a bit of a blow to the ego. Even if you already had plans and couldn’t make it anyway, it would have been nice to have been invited. The legalization of gay marriage is strikingly similar: we just want to be invited to the party.
France is currently embroiled in its own gay marriage battle that, on the surface, seems to be descending into madness as both sides protest in increasingly bizarre ways from bird-inspired interpretive dance to bare-breasted nun costumes. The displays are so flamboyant that it’s hard to tell if it’s a protest, or a street dance-battle between Madonna and Lady Gaga fans.
Feeling left out, a group of gay men have started Homovox: a site for “censored homosexual voices” (i.e., gays against gay marriage). Each short video features a gay guy telling us why he is against gay marriage. My French being atrocious, NOM has—for the first time ever—been helpful in posting these up with subtitles on their YouTube page. (via Joe.My.God)
Their arguments run the gamut from “I don’t personally want to get married!” to “Will someone please think of the children?!” in a cringe-worthy homage to anti-gay voices in the US.
Listen, écoutez if you will, Homovoxers and other assorted gays against gay marriage:
- No one is making you get married.
One of the most frustrating arguments from gays against gay marriage is that they are not interested in marriage, don’t know anyone who is, or don’t believe in marriage. Legalizing gay marriage is not about making everyone conform or get married; it’s about giving us the option. Much like a menu at a restaurant in no way obligates you to either like or order each of them, you instead have the ability to select whatever makes you happy.
- Separate but equal doesn’t work.
Although I would very much like my own personal version of everything—bus sections, classrooms, water fountains—separate but equal is a concept that really doesn’t address the problem. France’s current civil unions extends many benefits to same-sex partners with the exception, of course, of acknowledging that they are actually equal to heterosexual marriages.
- Stop hiding behind children.
In France, the gay marriage legislation includes adoption rights (and, now removed, access to medical intervention options), and a lot of the consternation from all involved is around whether it is right to raise a child in a non mother-father environment. Considering studies on the lack of harm in same-sex childrearing (one example via HuffPost), that no one is dancing against one-parent households, and that a majority of children born in France were born out of wedlock (via Reuters) it hardly seems that marriage is the linchpin for successful or even “normal” childrearing (particularly in France).
Gay marriage is one small step in legal recognition of the relationship’s validity. Marriage is not for everyone, nor is it the only issue, but it is a fundamental acknowledgement of our equality.
And gays would like to RSVP.